Ok, so I went and saw a lawyer today for a consultation.
She is a lawyer for the town my brothers work in.
She knows my brothers so she said she would speak with me.
She gave me a free consultation today, however she said she is looking to downsize and does not want to take up any new clients with big cases such as mine.
She did give us some good info though.
She told me in her 22 years of practice she has never told anyone to get rid of their L, but she recommended that I do as such. She told me to just not quote her on that because she doesn't want it getting back to her that she is bad mouthing other lawyers.
She feels my L is not doing what needs to be done and thinks it was totally unprofessional of her to do what she did to me yesterday in court.
She does not blame me for having no confidence left in her or for the court system in that matter.
She thinks it's ridiculous that we are even going to trial and doesn't understand how this has not been settled already.
She said the judge had no right to call me vindictive and couldn't get over that she won't allow me to move.
She said that my reasons for moving are VERY valid and she sees people getting approved of moving all the time for the same exact reasons as me.
She told me I needed a go-getter attorney that has an "in" up in the county I am in. (This L is from the county below where JA lives)
She gave me a few names of other lawyers that she thought were good. One of the names she gave me she said she was up against in court and was very impressed with her. She said this L was a real go-getter and worked hard for her clients. She told that she stood out in her mind out of all the rest.
She told me though before she I left she would call up a another L in my county who she was friends with, who was not a divorce L, for a recommendation.
So she called up her friend and told her my sitch a little and asked her who she thought was the best divorce L in my county who could get me what I needed. Her friend ended up recommending the same L who she did! So this L comes highly recommended.
I have an appointment with her on Thursday. If I like her I will retain her.
All I know is that things can't keep continuing on the same path they have been, which is downhill for me.
I have nothing personal against my L but I have no confindence in her at all at this point. She has let me down big time yesterday.
Also, I am tired of everytime I go see her for advice, it's always a different story with her.
I just want to get this done and over with.
It would be nice if I could get this new L and she can push for a settlement and get me what I need without having to go to trial or an appeal.
One thing the Law Guardian recommended to the judge yesterday was to allow a 6 month trial for JA to step up to the plate and be a good Dad.
This means he would have to pay for all child care costs so I can go back to school. Plus, if I get a job a night time he would have to be the one to come up at night and take care of the kids.
The L from yesterday said make it hard on him as possible. Financially and physically. He doesn't think JA would last a month which would prove my point of why I need my parent's support with the kids.
I don't know, we shall see. I don't want to use my children as pawns either.
