Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[SirPrizeMe]

Totally know the feeling, LMG!
Limbo land! Oh, it sucks!

"The book" says no ultimatims. Wish all ya want, just don't give it to him.

Would it work to let him drive the separation? You did your part, talking to the mediator. Now sit back? Give it time? let it simmer? would that work?

About the upheaval - do you mean.. just the stress associated to the looming separation? I guess also the money, too, eh? Yep. It's gonna happen. It's "upheaved". Stinks for you. I know the feeling though. You had plans and visions of what life was gonna be like and now everything is sort of up-for-grabs and uncertain. Money is tighter than you want it to be. yep.

I know how hard this must be for you. I lived for about 8 months in the house with Limbo Lady. (I finally left when she told me she was still talking to her boyfriend, and she'd never give him up.) It stunk while I was doing it, if I compared it to what I thought a marriage should be. But mostly I tried to stay away from those thoughts and just do my thing. "Give space" etc.

I was happy to do it, thinking that time was on my side. Time in limbo land maybe a chance for them to see a different perspective. I would trade my place now (separated, her lawyer is deployed and the lawyer's phaser is set to "kill") for return to limbo land. Not gonna happen though.