I haven't read my threads in a while, Lee, that is a good suggestion. Especially as I've gone through this before and there is always good advice that would stand the test of time.
Jorge, how about a henna tatoo?It's always good to look at the goals and what works. I guess those exercises are in the book for a reason.
Sue, you are right, you do sound strong, but your logic is correct, I think. I also believe our attitude effects our actions and decisions and whether we are prone to fall into a depression. I am trying to plan things and simply ask H what he wants to do. And then have fun on my own with the kids. These deserve a happy mom, not a basket case. Their dad can decide what he wants.
Off to the game tonight then a few days with the ILs. We are to go to my aunt's 70th b-day party, and even I asked H about 3 months ago and then he agreed to cover a midnight to 8 shift, so is planning to just drop us off and go home (3 hour drive). I'm a bit angry at this, the shift isn't one he had to do, but I can either stew about it or make the best of it. My Ps are coming up, so they are giving us a ride home and now I won't worry if he is having a good time or not. So, maybe there is a silver lining in all this.
