It was a really rough week last week, but going better this week. Whether that was because H's attitude has changed, or mine, I'm not sure.
KAW--You are right. I do take it very personally when H has a bug up his butt! I assume it is me. And maybe it is or isn't, but I need to keep living life and get off the eggshells. I need to learn I can't "fix" everything, if he wants to head out the door, he will, and my clinging or worrying won't change a thing. I know he likes me to be more confident and upbeat--and that is good for me, too. So must act as if until I can be that.
I've been thinking about the "what's wrong" statements. It just seems like it is starting on a negative. Want to be more positive--so trying to ask how was your day and if he just says fine, then I'm leaving it at that, not going to beat things out of him!
Steve---hi there! It is a bump, you are right, I just turned it into a mountain, and that was my own doing. Need to learn how to realize it is just a bump when I'm going through it.
Pam--I did get the second karate belt, glad I have this outlet to do something purely for me.
Sage--I know, I need a 180, need to stop the cycle before it stops. Got a lot of practice on that one last week. Trying to listen to what H wants and give it to him, but then also get to do what I want. Sometimes just removing myself from the house seems to help. Maybe I should start going for walks with the dog to clear my head.
DB-- Goals, I know. I was looking over what I had written in November, and some of the things that don't work--I started doing again. I need to refer to that list/journal a bit more often. And reread DR and set new goals for this new challenge.
Vince--I'm glad I went to the ball game. I'm not sure what I would have done previously, probably talked H into going, he would have been miserable, I would have been angry, etc. But we had a great time instead!
So, I survived my bump, my spirits are better. The summer is flying by. I'm trying to work on positive reinforcements with H and kids. On Thursday we go to the Phillies--our 17th anniversary of our first date (also at the Phillies). Hopefully it will go well and H will remain in the good mood he is in. If not, I will have fun!
