H and I have been corresponding today re: D's bday party. To his last email he attached:

"I’m not ignoring the other (US) stuff you brought up to me yesterday, I’m doing some soul searching right now, trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life. I’m sure you are probably doing some of the same. Tough day at the office."

I responded with:

"Re: other stuff. It wouldn’t be prudent to be hasty; our marriage, our home, our lives and those of our children are at stake, though we can’t just sit around waiting for a gift-wrapped solution to be handed to us. Each of us will decide when we can.

To be honest, I’m quite fearful right now but I want you to know that if you chose “the unit,” ultimately I know that I can forgive you, that I can forgive myself, that I can trust you and us. I hope you can do the same."


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.