Dang girls. I'm jealous--LA sounds lovely! I'm way out west with lots of wind and sage brush.
Me too. Today I've got temps of 108* & wind. Yuck.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Hey Deauxlie, my mean streak loves your lack of filter. Makes me feel less mean. I can't even post what I don't say. LOL
Hey, smart cookie, glad I can help someone, LOL. For some reason I'm finding it "freeing" to just let a bunch of internet strangers in on my recent relevations about the *state of me*.
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Also, if you want your H to point out your jabs, ask him. I bet he'll be willing.
I don't think I've incorporated that particular step in my program. I don't want to reform tooo much. There are natural consequences he's gotta face so he doesn't go thinking he can try that *erasing me thang* again, donchaknow.
Wow! You have 3! We just have Macy and a bird named Hollywood. Had bunches of fish but the tanks are in storage now and we sold the fish to some stores before we moved. Oh, and we feed all the outside birds. They are kind of ours only we don't have to clean any cages.
Be careful with that outdoor feeding of birds. When I had rats in my attic in Beau Chene the exterminator said, "someone near you must have a bird feeder." We also had overhanging trees touching the house. He said rats make a home near the bird feeder and then go steal the food and come back inside. Sure enough, a neighbor behind me did have a birdfeeder. Good thing I cut back those trees in August 2005. They all fell on the house 2 weeks later!
Hey, smart cookie, glad I can help someone, LOL. For some reason I'm finding it "freeing" to just let a bunch of internet strangers in on my recent relevations about the *state of me*.
I know, isn't it so awesome to just spill your guts, & it goes out into the universe. I love it. I'll have to think of a really mean thing I've thought or said. All my friends know it though, they say "girl, you have a wicked mean streak".
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I don't think I've incorporated that particular step in my program. I don't want to reform tooo much. There are natural consequences he's gotta face so he doesn't go thinking he can try that *erasing me thang* again, donchaknow.
I hear ya. I want to go read your whole story, you sound super fun. take care.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
LOL, no pressure. I just felt like starting a thread to kind of blow some steam off, laugh, vent about what we would say if we feel mean and filter-less because being more open and just laying it out in a nice way is working really well but I need to preserve my inner-bitchness somewhere. Can't give it up yet and struggling with whether or not I should.
You rock smart cookie. My H has a control freak streak too. His dad ruled the table of 8 boys with a broom and loud voice. Add that to a girl who was raised with a dad that tried to put her into a box until she was 18... to a girl that vowed she would one day grow up and keep her windows open while blasting the heat because daddy spent more money on a daily pack of cigarettes than the heat for the day actually costs and you get some really intense dynamics going on.
In my *state of me* assessment, I've discovered the amazing concept that if I just be the one who sees the big picture once in a while... if I can just give in and let him win once in a while... he is floored. Maybe part of building a life long relationship IS to be so unyeilding that he appreciates the change so much that he now talks more than he ever did, and more importantly listens. Maybe a marriage is something we should "db" all along so the 180s keep it fresh. Maybe I...no WE are just growing up.
Cotton candy, syrupy, gag-me confession... we watched American Idol tonight and cried. LOL. Music is such an important way we communicate. Lyrics we listen to the first time (seemingly) in songs we've heard all our lives just have a different meaning now. We actually voted for the very first time in all the years that show has been on.
I almost started music threads a bunch of times. Better than greeting cards, there is always something a song can say for you. This one though, has to be the place we can channel that inner bitch so we don't bleed so badly when biting our tongues.
I don't think I've incorporated that particular step in my program. I don't want to reform tooo much. There are natural consequences he's gotta face so he doesn't go thinking he can try that *erasing me thang* again, donchaknow.