Thanks for answering my questions, Sara. I do appreciate it.

So your H doesn't know about the occasional e-mail(s) from OM, and your H still has OW in his cellphone memory. You don't think these things should change? If you're ok with H still having OW's number in his phone, that's alright because it's completely your choice. I guess I just see an issue with keeping the e-mails to yourself.

Originally Posted By: Sara
It's 24 hours already. What did you do about the letter?


Originally Posted By: Sara
I would put the letter in a sealed envelope and give it to him, telling him what it is. I would tell him my fears concerning his reading the letter, and ask him to consider that before deciding whether or not to read it. But the letter is his. You won't hide it or anything else from him.


You posted that last week to Whatdidido.

I can only assume that you're hiding the e-mails from your H since you said he doesn't know about them. Why? Is it to keep part of the fantasy alive still? You said romantic nostalgia sucks, or something to that effect \:\) , but the e-mails are quite clearly held in secrecy.

Just trying to understand. Have you really let go? And do you feel that there is still something missing in the R with your H that possibly keeps you in accepting the e-mails from OM and not telling H about it?

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell