For the man that means strength (physical and mental), courage, presence, direction, energy, passion and relentless optimism for the future. The majority of men in SSMs have lost these qualities, or are waiting for their woman to give them sex before showing them, or are only "faking" them in order to get sex (women can sense this), or never really had these qualities to begin with.
I have to say I kind of agree with this statement.... it makes a lot of sense... while my H got frustrated with me for losing my drive and becoming LD~ he shut down and was no longer the Man I had Married.
in all his complaining for me to step it up he even said to me... " when you change and do this for me... I will give you all the things you are asking for."
And I also remember saying to my friend on the phone you know when hubby does"X" it really does not turn me on, I want him to be a Man.
I thought OMG~ what an epiphany~!!!!!! I never had really given it much thought but I heard myself say this so to speak and it made sense.... NO I dont want him to be a caveman and drag me by my hair.. I want respect but I do also need him to be a Man... a Real Man..... to get me hot.
I think we were discussing how he used to let his Mom manipulate him and wouldnt stand up to her.... and I said That turns off when he does not stand up for me and our kids. Huge turn off.
Great post SA ~ as usual!
Just my 2 cents and I hope I made sense,,, I sometimes have a hard time putting in posts what I mean! Take care ~B and keep up the good work... Isnt it amazing when you finally UNDERSTAND~
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