In my mind, detaching is about giving up expectations. (I.e. expecting him to call, expecting him to send gifts for special occasions, expecting him to actually act like your H). It absolutely 100% does NOT mean giving up hope that he might do those things in the future. Detaching also means not letting his moods affect you, and finding ways to make yourself happy. Detaching is about being happy with who you are and how you have handled this crisis. Detachment means KNOWING deep down in your heart and your gut that no matter what crap he pulls, you will be 100% fine in the future.
Does that help?
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
