Great news and good to see you here. I was rooting for you. The fears and insecurities you're both feeling are pretty common. Sometimes as you conquer some, new ones will come up. None of us want to end up where we were when we sought out this support site.
Have you read any of the Tools or Tips threads at the top of the forum? A little nervousness is probably a good thing... keeps you both on your toes so you don't get "lazy" again.
If she's now into R talk, it'd be great to get the His Needs Her Needs book or one of those types (I hear passionate marriage is really good too and I'm going to get it asap) so you can talk about making each other happy together.
I'd advise that if self confidence is an issue with her, make sure she follows through with working that out inside herself so she doesn't rely on others to make her feel beautiful and valued.
Help other people in Newcomers. You don't want to spend too much time on the boards because they trigger a lot of stuff, but helping people or simply letting them know someone is listening or cares can help keep you in the *DB state of mind* too.
