Cinders, my middle son tried to make a gesture of kindness to his father, and got rebuffed. This is part of what he wrote to his father after his rebuff. I am sharing with you because it shows that our children can see clearly what is going on. Probably not good Dbing, but it came from the heart. It supports what Bworl says. These people are emotinally out to lunch
Quote:
I really hope one day you will be able to recognise that you are not always right, and that other people's points of view are important not just on paper but to your existence. Particularly the points of view of people with whom that existence has been so intertwined. (Regardless of whether you think that intertwining was a big mistake.)
It has apparently intensified, but as i said was always there, and i can see it in your attitude towards all your children in our childhood. One positive upshot is that it's even more amazing now to meet people who are *not* emotionally stunted adults. They do exist! Hurrah! I think you too have the capacity to become one. You just need to stop being so self-focussed. You are not very important. You are important to me, who am not important. You are nothing. Deal with it and just be nice and kind and considerate, please. I promise you it's worth it: life is amazing when you have love. Not as in sex, or companionship, just pure love towards the world and the people who care about you. Try it, please.
He shared it with me, and I am sharing it with you. They are the fools, and our children come to see it. Hugs
