As for the R, I'm gonna place some bets that it's a combo of things - he doesn't feel like R should take work if they're really meant to be (immature, but all the movies tell us so)
BINGO.
Remember when I made the remark about how I thought things should 'feel/be natural'? Unrealistic expectation you pointed out.
Well H said the same thing on Saturday before he got home from work. He said something like, "I should want to be with you, and it should be natural but it's not." I tried to talk to him about how unrealistic that is, but of course he wouldn't let me finish. I just didn't know WTH I was talking about.
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....plus by the time he gets home from work all he wants to do is relax, and working on the R feels like work in his head and therefore he has no energy left to do it.
I wonder if there are ways you can encourage him to do things to work on the R while making them fun / feel like fun to him...
I'm at a loss. I don't know how to do this.
Hmmm....
To start, it might have to involve doing things with the kids, and then inviting him along. It's his choice as to whether or not he wants to be a part of that, and if he does, then we continue to go from there.
Last edited by GoingForward; 05/20/0807:17 PM.
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