I think you might be on to something there, Michelle.
Damn, girl, you are good!
He is NOT like this at all with his friends/coworkers. He has to exhibit emotional and mental stability at all times. Otherwise, it would mean his job if someone were to leak this about him to the higher-ups. He definitely doesn't want that to happen! I believe he does have some sense of control in that environment. He knows how to solve problems that arise, and they often look to him for that.
The swearing.....Yeah, it doesn't really bother me all that much either. That's just how he's always been, and his problem isn't drugs (btw, no need to tip-toe, Jeff ). I think it's depression coupled with alcohol. They test for drugs and alcohol quite frequently (as they should at a refinery). He drinks a lot of beer (though he would say 8 or 9 bottles is nothing for a guy his size - 6', 210 lbs.) but is always sure to finish his last one for the night 8 hours prior to his next shift. I guess so that it has time to get out of his system.
It's almost funny to think that he wouldn't know how to at least start fixing the R with me when this is something we talked about many, many times. I suppose it's as he said though - he doesn't WANT to try.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I was kinda wondering how she didn't just kill him, then and there, actually!
Cuz I was already comfy and cozy on the couch and too lazy to get up and grab my iron skillet!
Ha! He was lucky then!
I was going to say, "or alcohol", but I didn't! I'm sure that doesn't help at all, no matter what he ways. So, it seems that he is pretty much saying that he has to be civil at work, but it is ok to treat you like crap! Yeah, that makes sense!
Hmmmm, so home is the only place he feels comfortable letting out all his frustrations.
Plus he's depressed. Plus he drinks - which is a depressant.
As for the R, I'm gonna place some bets that it's a combo of things - he doesn't feel like R should take work if they're really meant to be (immature, but all the movies tell us so) plus by the time he gets home from work all he wants to do is relax, and working on the R feels like work in his head and therefore he has no energy left to do it.
I wonder if there are ways you can encourage him to do things to work on the R while making them fun / feel like fun to him...
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). I think it's depression coupled with alcohol. They test for drugs and alcohol quite frequently (as they should at a refinery). He drinks a lot of beer (though he would say 8 or 9 bottles is nothing for a guy his size - 6', 210 lbs.) but is always sure to finish his last one for the night 8 hours prior to his next shift. I guess so that it has time to get out of his system.
Guess I just got caught up in the drama of it all!