Hi Jackie ~ Hope your day is good today. Just a few thoughts after catching up w/you.....
Quoting KAW:
Quote: All it takes is one point in the dynamic to change the total outcome. Before reacting to what he did, take a moment to think what can I do to draw us closer right now? It's a matter of asking that first to find what works rather than getting caught up in the old patterns.
This is incredible. Very well said, KAW. Thank you! You have very concisely stated what is one of the keys, here in most of our sitch's, IMHO. It is so hard to put a wrench in to stop things once they get going, but each time it happens we'll be more aware of the pattern starting, and it sounds like you're already thinking and planning for next time.
I agree with Steve that your H asking that you not fall into the old pattern is a positive. Definitely.
The three things idea is a great one too. Sounds like you are moving through piecing well. Keep up your patience and strength - you are a great example ~ You kicked a hole in the wall? Way to go!
p.s. - what's a Yeungling?
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"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche