Please define "call all the shots." CBK is still able to set reasonable boundaries (no contact with OM for example, and proof via transparency), isn't it? Just treat his wife, should she come back, as a full partner in their marriage, correct?
Just trying to clarify your position. Thanks.
Puppy
"call the shots"...in a short answer, he's letting me lead our interactions. I could give a bunch of examples, but the overall feeling is that he accepts me, respects my time, he's interested in my opinions, & respects my choices.
I can't say what is reasonable for CBK. He's said that her being in contact with OM is a dealbreaker. Each time my H tried to push me to end contact with OM, it pushed me closer to OM. OM made no demands on me, my H had made too many demands for too many years. I knew how that felt & I didn't want that anymore.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
