Wading with Water wings - 23 years...

[CBK]

SC - very insightful and useful. I would talk about poor me in MC, I was very much playing the victim role - "why is she doing this to me?" type of attitude. She is in the process of taking care of her, I wasn't doing a very good job of it - can't say the OM is either as he is married. Even in my letter - I said something like "you are probably asking yourself WHY KNOW does he get it!" or someting like that. I can stop pushing if the boudaries for both of us are fair, that is all I am asking. But you are right, I will let her vent, I will listen and validate her feelings, I never thought I was overly controling, so I need to look further there, more like manipulating... If I know there is a possible future for us, then we can work on us.

Again SC, this is a very helpful post.

CBK