Hi KPK, My H and I were S for 6 months (which is considered a fairly short amount of time here in MLC land)
I got the ilybinilwy, can't picture being married to you, don't want to be in the house, oh and blamed me for absolutely everything. this all happened out of the blue while we were on vacation...I had no clue!!
We had D4 and D10months at the time...The best I could do for NC was to talk to him only about the kids.
He also asked me if we should D and I gave the same answer that you did...I thought the M was salvagable and could be worked on. H did not agree so I finally told him I could not make him do/not do anything...if he wanted a D he was going to have to do the work.
H did and we went to court for our 4 way meeting...4 days later H decided he wanted things to work out. the ball was then in my court and I insisted that we go to MC and move ahead slowly.
H has been home almost a year and things are really good.
Yes, he had a young OW and yes, he put in us major financial strains. It was hard to forgive and I still am working on it everyday.
I also had a problem "being still"...It was a hard lesson to learn but with all the advice and support I got here, I succeeded at it.
I didn't think H cared about me one way or another but the truth was, he saw my positive changes and missed me...probably more than I missed him at the time. He saw me GAL and realized that I was moving on...with or without him...
Stay strong and be still...this takes a lot of patience!!
