Wading with Water wings - 23 years...

[thegoodfight]

Just to confuse the matter further, I thought I'd share my opinion here.

H tried to give me an ultimatum last Nov. Him or OM. I would have chosen to continue to communicate with OM (who I'd never met in person, lived on the opposite coast, who was 13 years older than me). Sounds like a stupid choice, huh.

I wasn't choosing OM, I was choosing not to let H CONTROL ME. That was the major issue in our R. H was extremely controlling.

My H kept saying OM was the wedge between us, he wasn't, our R was the wedge. I kept asking H what was the wedge for the 10 years when OM wasn't around ???

I do agree with setting boundaries on how she treats you.

Just my 2 cents.

Two thoughts here, two wrongs don't make a right! The other is control is not always the issue in the relationships, it obiviously was in yours. You took a stand, you wanted your husband to change. Sometimes it takes something earth shattering to change a person. Sad but true! Either way, CBK needs to work on himself, he can't control his Wife, if he could she would be at home and loving her life!

Your husband can't control you, the only way for him to control you is if you let him! It is your choice to allow him too or not! Either way we only really have control over ourselves and really nothing else! That is why we work on ourselves.