Backfire for me was that she just kept saying that she deserves to be selfish and her IC said it was okay, so it just made her more upset and me more emotional. What I was trying to do early with telling her she was being selfish was for her to realize all fo the other people involved, she could give a rat's behind.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
