<<I am willing to carry her if she wants, but I don't think she wants that right now!

This is so interesting. For all these years, I wanted H to carry me, & I would have given anything if he would have, he refused (he says now that he didn't know how, that I didn't need it, that he thought I was so strong), but in my mind at the time he was refusing, & I felt that pain. Now that I'm working with a great Dr/therapist, I realize I need to carry myself.

Now, for the ironic part. He wants to carry me now. LOL I thank him for offering, but tell him I need to learn to carry myself.

My Dr's favorite saying "it's nice to depend on someone, it's awful to be dependent on someone".

Take care, you sound really good. How was the Spurs & the beer ?

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.