H4U, I would only encourage you to look at BOTH the "rosy scenario" and also alternative, somewhat-scarier scenarios before coming to any conclusions. In almost every case, I see you constructing your own rationale for all of her moods, words and actions, and almost ALWAYS it is the rosiest scenario that you construct, or else a "Could she be doing thus-and-such? Sure, but . . . " and then you self-dismiss your own concerns and warning flags.
It is these -- your OWN warning flags, not mine or ours here -- that I am trying to get you to consider more often.
Even if you throw out my advice as the "low test score," throw out your own as the "high test score" and try to listen to the "sensible center" of folks and to MWD's teachings as well about detachment and boundaries.
Reading your post, I can't help but think that your wife's reaction to you exposing to OMW is driving much of your decision-making. Try to do things because they're the RIGHT thing to do in each situation, and not from a "how will she likely react?" POV.
