Don't you have to be really good friends to be a couple? I don't remember the beginning of your sitch, but would it be safe to say that you guys weren't really good friends for a few years? Not that you had to dislike each other, but you obviously drifted away from each other. I see the good friends as the necessary path to couple-dom. You build that really strong foundation before you become a couple.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09