Your sitch is so far ahead of my sitch that I hesitate to say anything. But I think it's really positive that you're communicating about all this stuff. are you afraid that "normal" is going back to where things were before? It makes sense to me that the honeymoon of reconciliation would change a little bit after a few weeks, but I don't think that means anything is wrong. I am wondering if you could ask her what would make her feel more like you were a couple, and then act on her observations.
One thing that helps me, is to focus on the moments of connection as opposed to the official definied status of the "relationship". So if you feel like you guys really are connecting (and it sounds to me like you are--esp if she keeps telling you she is having fun just spending time together--THAT IS HUGE) then whether or not you are a "couple" is not so important.
It seems like there is some sort of balance to be struck between being complacent and being over-attentive to every single fluctuation in her attention/enthusiasm for the R. What do you think that balance is?
I'm sure I'm just telling you stuff you already know!! I am sure those who are already piecing will have much better things to say!!! Please feel free to ignore everything I'm saying!!!
(((((((MM)))))))) you are a true inspiration! TRANSFORMER
