Ok Pup, we're on the same page. Might be a week or so past when I should have done the book thing, but I figured since I'm seeing some positive results of not pushing I would keep that up a little longer before going there.
I'm sure I've mentioned this before, but WW is the Queen of Stubbornville. It's a country that shares a border with Prideland. And I've been trying to keep that in mind in my dealings with her. She had a rather unloving childhood. No real father figure and divorce is rampant in her immediate family. WW has always had a F ya all kind of attitude. Have to admit, that was one of the things that attracted me to her in the beginning.
So once she said she'd go NC, I've been trying to accept that she's being honest. Would I like more intel? Sure, but I can be pretty patient if I know they aren't physically in contact with each other and from the events of the last 4 months, it's pretty apparent to me that OM doesn't want anything to do with her possibly beyond flirting in email. That's what OMW says is his M.O. Love em and leave em. So if they still are talking in email/phone, she's going to be pushing him for more and with him finding out about her STD and him most likely having another GF in his new town, I just don't see him wanting to be with WW. So she's eventually got to figure that out and if I'm the steady, loving person at home like I've been, it's got to have an affect.
With WW's F ya all, I don't need you kind of attitude, I just think that maybe with the small positive steps I'm seeing that it would probably be best to not push at this moment.
Don't get me wrong, that moment is coming in the not too distant future if we aren't making progress, but I'm going to be patient for a little longer.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.