You give your advice; I give mine. We don't have to agree.
Communication is essential to a marriage. IMO if CBK gets one hour a week of respectable, fair communication with the counselor, then that is better than not getting it. There are many things thay can work on with the counselor other than reconciliation, if reconciliation is not possible at this point. And I'm sure the counselor will have ideas of what those things are and will have goals that they can achieve. CBK can judge if the counseling is worth his time and money. We are on the outside, we cannot.
You and I have different philosophies. We are dealing with humans here, not mathematics. There are many right answers, not just one. CBK will listen and choose.
