He's "done". Period.

[Rusty]

Chris - I can so relate to your words about how can he just decide to destroy yours and your kids lives. I had the same thing happen - H became committed to leaving and he was done. But this was after 23 YEARS!!!!We have been S for 2 1/2 years! I have just discovered DB and hope it's not too late, but the hurt doesn't go away. You just really need to focus on yourself and your kids and act "as if" I just started it, don't know if it will work or not. Tried it before (just from friends suggestions, not real DB) and he did come around and we started dating. Then, my old self came back out and I pushed and demanded. Boom - he's gone again! Don't make those mistakes and keep reading and doing what everyone on here says! It is probably the hardest thing you will ever do - I totally understand your anger! I've got so much of it myself! Vent here and to your therapist - not at H. Good luck - it's not too late.