My suggestion to not continue MC so long as she was still involved with OM was simply because it's rarely effective. If it helps CBK simply negotiate the terrain of his day-to-day life in the weeks and months ahead, it may be helpful, but I don't want him to get his hopes up that any real MARITAL reconciliation can happen here, so long as his wife continues her affair.
Betrayed spouses often look to a marriage counselor to "convince" their wayward spouse that their affair is "wrong," and to do the necessary hard work for them. That RARELY happens, as the wayward spouse will simply lie to the MC and to their spouse, because "all cheaters lie." So long as there is an active addiction, very little real R work can be done at these sessions.
