Lodo, it's still a minimizing statement, and I'm not saying to say it EVERY TIME and beat her over the head with it. But I do see on the boards where a LOT of wayward spouses say things like "I"m sorry," and "I really messed things up, didn't I" and "You didn't deserve this," etc., and their betrayed spouses say/do something to ease their pain. I think a truth dart, not said in anger, is the better response.
