I'm in a very similar situation. bomb, I don't love you, 3 months ago, affair discovered 2 months ago and he moved out a month ago. db'ing and LRT is HARD -- read some of my threads and you'll see how many times I have f'd it up. but I'm learning slowly that the more I do it, the better I feel and THAT is what is important. all the begging and crying and watching and waiting and threatening (i've done it all) has gotten me nowhere, if anything, it makes it worse. the thing with db'ing is that YOU begin to feel a bit better and get some dignity back. that is what I am slowly finding. now you will seee my threads that people hit me with 2x4's, I have backslid so many times, but it's out of caring. this is a wonderful site and it's been my life line.
don't make the mistakes I've made of 3 months of db'ing then backslding. you have to be consistant.
