As I wander around the boards late at night, I am amazed at how different threads attract different posters with different philosophies. You seem to have attracted a tough crew. They love you, but with a brand of tough love. The more I listen to the stories the more I observe that there is not much that is predictable about human behavior. We are all doing our best and muddling through. Somethings work for some people, and other things work for others. Bottom line, you have to live with your choices.
Up til that day, I had never been so proud of my son as I was when he called OW to save his parents' marriage. My 2 boys stood in the living room and assured me they would break H and OW up. They would both go live with her, and be as demanding and ugly and awful as they could be! I knew I would win the battle with my H cuz I had all three kids as my army. Family can feel like being wrapped in a big, warm, soft blanket. And that's what my kids did for me at that time in my life.
