Oh my goodness, Sara. You've had so much happen today.
Be strong and don't waver... just as everyone says above, your husband needs to show you via actions not words.
It seems like you've got your head screwed on straight. I hope the gym did your state of mind some good.
((((((((((((((((((((SARA))))))))))))))))))))))
Yeah...it just seems unbelieveable that so much could happen in a mere 24 hours! I have a headache from it all. I just talked to H again on the phone (he is having a break time during his class). He revealed some more things to me (if I can believe him). He finally admitted that he has been with OW this whole time (already knew that in my mind anyhow) and said that he broke it off with her and got out of the lease to the apartment.
Honestly...I can't take any more today. I think a long, hot bath is in my near future.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I'm reading an interesting book called "Solo Partner" by P. DeLuca I think, and his theory is that a lot of relationships have a Pursuer & Distancer--which does kind of sound like my R. That the pursuers get fed up or for whatever reason back off (like I found DB), the Distancer gets worried he might lose the Pursuer (me in my R) and then things go well for a while, until the Pursuer goes back to normal behavior and then the Distancer is off again. DR talks about that a little too, but DeLuca spends a couple chapters on that and develops it a little more fully I think. I have noticed that when I pull back, my H does email and contact me more, and it describes our R to a T; of course your sitch may be much different.
My theory on the panties--planted by the OW??? Karen
Anywhoooooo, your day. Wow, girl. All I have to say is I second GF's advice....
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Take a break from it all and enjoy your relaxing bath. You know you deserve it.
Keep your chin up and your eyes open. H is having a bite of reality but is it really enough? I would be more furious than you are about the OW, but I suppose if they are wanting to reconcile (the WAS), we have to forgive and look ahead.
My theory on the panties-in-the-sandwich-bag is that your wayward husband thinks his GF is wayward (or is she married?), and he's going to test them with a "home infidelity kit" to see if she's had unprotected sex with him.
Karen