It definitely shed some light. Our typical conflict resolution through 11 years of marriage was she would be aggressive and badger till I gave in, or I would assert my agressiveness through innactivity, or if she did get her way through badgering me till I gave in then I would subconsciensly ensure that she didn't enjoy it....the end result was neither one of was happy.
This is one area where I have tried to work on myself quite a bit. I used to have a "devils advocate approach" to most problems, which she took as being negative where I viewed it as a way to work through what I thought the issues might be. Since I have tried to keep the road blocks to myself until I can come up with at least a potential solution. I think it has been a little helpful (hopefully not too little too late). Though now she says that I am a pushover because I agree with her now.....ughh...I can't win!
On a side note. I spent the day getting "da-da's house ready for the kids. The day went well until it was the time I would normally come home...and I couldn't
Also I went to toys r us to get soem stuff for them and it just felt sad thinking it of two separate homes. The tear jerker was talking to thme on the phone.
The good news in a sad way is that the W sounded as sad as I felt (but didn't show on the phone)
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
