I'm reading an interesting book called "Solo Partner" by P. DeLuca I think, and his theory is that a lot of relationships have a Pursuer & Distancer--which does kind of sound like my R. That the pursuers get fed up or for whatever reason back off (like I found DB), the Distancer gets worried he might lose the Pursuer (me in my R) and then things go well for a while, until the Pursuer goes back to normal behavior and then the Distancer is off again. DR talks about that a little too, but DeLuca spends a couple chapters on that and develops it a little more fully I think. I have noticed that when I pull back, my H does email and contact me more, and it describes our R to a T; of course your sitch may be much different.
My theory on the panties--planted by the OW??? Karen
Karen