The decision is made

[BeingMe]

Your post made me think of David J. Pollay's Law of the Garbage Truck (one of the speakers at church used it this last Sunday).

The main thrust of the law is this:
"Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they’ll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well and move on. Believe me. You’ll be happier."

Here's a link to the full story ... http://www.northstarwriters.com/djp025.htm

He can try and charge you for something he decided to get his L to do, but that doesn't mean he will win. Perhaps you should just get your L to send out a little tidbit, for the time being, while you take the time to read through everything. Maybe, she can warn that her client is being harrassed, and that will not be taken lightly? These bullying tactics are ridiculous!

I think it showed some real self awareness of your H to admit he is having a several years long tantrum. He must be such fun to live with now, 'eh! NOT! (At least, I sure hope not.)

Take care.