Nearly two months since I was here last. Where does the time go?
SO what's been happening you ask.
Started and finished a new job.
The court orders came back, they ordered exactly what w & I discussed. So thats all good as far as that goes. Not quite the restoration of my m, but will have to do for now.
Went for another long weekend retreat. The mindfulness stuff is life changing and I recommend it to everyone on these forums. I can honestly say it was one of the best weekends I have ever had.
Back to work Monday and w phones, wants me to get to her lawyers real quick as her new mortgage is going stale at the bank waiting for the new titles (without me on it) for the property.
So I went to her lawyers that day to sign away the house & car. It was papers to remove me from the title and leave w & her parents on it. The lawyer stayed in his room until I advised reception, after waiting a few minutes, to just let me sign and go, he came out then I signed away. I flippantly said w's got my bank details you can transfer the $'s there when the bank stuff is done. He said it would be a cheque & they needed a receipt. I told him that a cheque was unacceptable and advised him not to worry as I'd talk to the w about it.
I had not been bothered about signing this stuff away but I thought the lawyer was a smart ar$e and I had probably reacted to him keeping me waiting and ripping off the w etc. He was the only thing that bothered me about the whole thing.
I thought I'd help out and get the papers for the car sorted out so as not to hinder me getting my $'s. So I did.
Now I'm just waiting for the $'s. It has been over three weeks and I'm starting to get impatient.
I will phone the Lands Office today to see whats going on with the transfer, I cant see that it would take three weeks to change a name, not in this day and age.
I do hope her lawyer isn't stuffing me around, maybe there is a time limit on these orders. I should check that out too.
W may have the house, car and all the furniture but she also has a big mortgage. I on the other hand, when I get the $'s, will be pretty well debt free and be able to do anything I choose.
So who wins and who loses? Are there winners and losers?
The kids are all doing great, they don't like the idea of the w's 'friend' being there all the time but theres not much they can do. I'm still in no position to have them round much and I don't want to have a custody battle over them and then have court ordered visitation rights and all that sort of cr^p. As long as I get to see them and they get to see me and we have quality time together when we are together, I will be happy and I'm sure they will be too. I will be buying a van when I get the settlement so there will be lots more days out then. It should be good.
So here I am two and a half years post bomb...
Assets are split all bar the money. Still no talk of the big d. w swings, one time talkative another wants nothing to do with me. me totally non plussed, probably past it now all her rellies like me all her rellies apparently don't like loverboy w likes loverboy w don't like me me don't care either way
