I'm so sorry you find yourself here, but you're in a good place (accepting that the situation isn't ideal). There's a LOT of great support and advice on these boards. I'm so sorry to hear about the OW in your sitch. That sucks and I really feel for you.
You've read DR, which is great. You're right that you need to be implementing the LRT. Also, act AS IF when you see your H. No more crying, looking sad and giving a hint of upset when you speak/see each other. Just happy, smiling Cindy. I know it's hard, so come here and vent whenever you need to. You're at the beginning of a journey which is a real rollercoaster, but you sound very strong from your post. You're going to make it.
Your H is of an age to be having a QLC. Are there other symptoms that suggest this is what's going on? Either way, I don't think it would affect your DB strategy. I believe my H is QLC. He's 28.
In relation to your questions, whether you wear your ring or not is up to you. If you're standing for your M, then continuing to wear it sends out a signal. On the other hand, if you'd rather have it off for yourself, do that. The main thing is not to keep it on or take it off to provoke a reaction from your H.
It IS possible for you to get your H back. Work on yourself, and DB as well as you can. Come here when you need help and advice, and read the success stories in the resources sections both on this board, and the main newcomers/resources section.
How did you resolve your travelling to work situation, BTW?
L.xx
PS> I saw that you have 2 threads here. Try if you can to stick to just the one- it helps people follow your situation more easily and will get your more responses too.
Hi thank you for the response. I have some really good friends at work that have pulled together and have been giving me rides.
