thanks for your input OT. I appreciate it. and that's probably why I wasn't comfortable with the term, ultimatum, when he asked if it was one. I am leaving it up to him whether he goes or not, but I am telling him I don't think we have as good a chance w/o him in IC and I sincerely believe it. its something I've talked over with my own IC and my friend who is a therapist and they agree with me. what he gets out of it is what he will put into it, I know that, and if he is dragged there you are right, it will be tougher. but hoping he does choose to put something into it, and will get something out of it because I hope that he can work thru a lot of the issues he does have. and because I want/deserve a healthy person and I'd still like that person to be him. and personally I do not for one second believe he will get there without IC. jmho. and maybe he will get nothing out of it, who knows. and maybe we aren't meant to be together...time will sort that one out, too.
the bottom line is I want someone healthy, I do not want a disfunctional relationship in the future.
I have no experience with anti-depressants so can't speak about them.
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