When life just hits you

[mishka422]

I echo what kiki and angelica have said. This will pass.

Let's look at this another way. Did your H continue to be loving, romantic, constantly attentive to you throughout the years of your marriage? Did you ever feel neglected? Unadored? Uncherished? How long before the bomb do you remember losing his "adoration"?

You deserved to have attention and love shown to you by your husband. I have a feeling that if you weren't feeling that anymore you may have subconciously pulled back from him. I know that's what happened in my M. H stopped showing me affection, stopped participating in our M almost entirely and I became his mother almost as much as I am mother to our son. He just became the errand boy. Would only do things that needed to get done if I specifically asked him to do them. No initiative.

You should definitely continue your relationship with your MIL but don't expect her to continue to support you against OW. Blood is definitely thicker than water and no matter what H is doing that MIL finds wrong, she won't go against him. Be careful friends with her.

((((Cinders))))