Well, we had a nice lunch. I asked me if I wanted to go out for drinks tonight. I don't know if I can yet, but told him I would get with him after work today.
I have noticed a few things. It is better to talk to H about things while we are out. Maybe he feels less trapped, or maybe it is better to be on "neutral" ground. It is also better just to casually ask questions, rather than asking if we can talk about something. He tends to get defensive if it is "scheduled" but if it just happens to come up then he seems to talk freely.
