Real life's getting more like fiction each day (2)

[Starshyne]

You know, the statement about the schooling doesn't bother me and I will tell you why. For the 1st time in as long as I have known my husband, he is actually happy with his job. He likes what he is doing. Sure it is a lower paying job without benefits; however the money I make teaching is enough for us and whatever he brings in is just extra. I would rather see him happy with his work and making less than unhappy with the CNA (which from what he has been told, doesn't sound like what he is wanting) and making just a little bit more. That is why I told him I thought he should try the classes and see what it is like. Maybe the things people told him aren't true.

And the month of April he WAS working around the house more. Mowing the lawn, vaccuuming, taking out the trash, doing laundry, etc. So that had improved greatly since February/March.

I just feel confused and I don't like that. I am going to just keep on doing what I have been doing. Locking all of the doors and assuming he isn't coming home. GAL and doing what I want to do. He is going to have to show me by his actions that he is wanting to work on things. The first thing would be coming home right after his class ends at 10. If he comes around any later than 1045 tonight (the college is about a 20 min. drive...give a little extra in case he has to talk to someone), he won't get in.

[MichelleLT]

If he comes around any later than 1045 tonight (the college is about a 20 min. drive...give a little extra in case he has to talk to someone), he won't get in.

I like it! Perfectly reasonable, especially since he is essentially a guest in your house right now.

Just keep going. Do what you have been doing, monitor results, and think.

Your feelings are only natural, we all feel confused, a lot of the time lol.

[Starshyne]

The drama continues...just checked my cell phone and what did I have? I text from the OW that says:

"I was with Michael this whole time and had sex but I can tell you this me and him are over."

I have mixed feelings about this. The first thing is that I feel better knowing that he was with the same OW that he was with before. At least he didn't hop around from woman to woman. Knowing they had sex makes me sick to my stomach. I mean I knew it before, but knowing it now is just really difficult. How many times am I going to be told that "it is over?" I am not stupid.

[MichelleLT]

Sara, nothing she says is the Gospel Truth. It could be as simple as her trying to stir up drama or break up the M.

For all you know, they haven't been together since March and she wants him back so she figures if you think they're together you'll break up and he'll run back to her.

Or it could be the truth.

Don't take her TM to heart though, there is no way to be sure right now.

For now, try and be patient.

(((((((Sara)))))))

[JeffSTL]

Sara, its Jeff

Hang in there. I couldn't handle this, MichelleT may be right, who knows.

I been watching your post, I can't write much becasue I'm at work, don't want to lose my job over use of internet.

I just wanted you to know I was thinking of you !!!!


I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet

We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important

M45
W41
M10 years
D9, D6, D6, S5
OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me
PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ??? let me hope !!!
W moving out June 1st - 16 days

[Starshyne]

And to think that I have to go and cover for a class for the rest of the day. I just feel totally messed up inside. Besides THIS drama I have work drama going on that just makes me want to go home and hide under the covers.

I know better than to believe her. She is the type of MOTHER who would go out with another woman's husband. But it does make sense to me that he would have been with her during this time. I knew he was without someone and he did call me by her name on the phone that one time. I actually would like to believe that he was with her and isn't just sleeping around with any woman that comes his way. I guess that is sort of messed up thinking, but it is true.

[MichelleLT]

It's easier to handle the demon you know that the demon you don't.

In other words, I think it's less painful to have the wound of him being with her again than it is to have an entirely new one.

((((((Sara)))))) Hang in there. You can do it. Go home and hide under the covers later - that's a good idea some days.

[Sugar and Spice]

(((Sara))) having been on the receiving end of TM by the OW, just let it go. Don't even try and figure out what she is trying to do or why she sent it...who cares. Her actions with you H have shown what type of woman that she is so don't let someone like that bring you down or make your day bad. I know how hard it is, but if you get sucked in then you are just feeding into their drama and its so not worth it.

Keep doing what you need to do for YOU. Don't worry about what anyone says, its their actions that you should watch and gauge them by...its a lesson I am having to learn as well.

Your in my thoughts today.
Corey

[klm]

((((((Sara)))))) I am so sorry that you are going through this.

He may have been with her, but she did not send you that text to let you know what was going on. She did as a desperate attempt to get your H to come back and to cause drama between the two of you. Don't let it work.

Hang in there Sara, try not to let her get to you.

[Sugar and Spice]

Shes not worth it Sara...