No! For real?! This is such bull. Please share what happened when you have time and/or feeling like talking about it. I'm sorry again MrsH! I really really am.
I don't have time right now to discuss what happened, but once again, I got screwed over in court.
Oh, Mrs. H. I am so very sorry. Please let us know what happened and how you are doing when you get the chance.
Was it more BS from the judge? Grrrrrrr.
What is it with these @$$e$ and their Lawyers? And what is it with these judges who just don't seem to care about what's right? As of right now, I will be going to court on Wednesday with absolutely no legal representation, and all the judge's assistant would tell me is, "You need to get another attorney. Don't you have parents who can help financially? Don't you have a Mom or Dad?" So I guess I too am about to find out all about getting screwed over in court.
I'm so sad that you and your boys are going through this. I hope you have friends and family around to support you today. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
TP
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
OH sweety, I'm so sorry...my prayers are with you...please know that in our darkest hour, God will be there to help us through, pray, pray, pray. I will do the same for you!!!
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
So I get to court this morning. My Dad and brother are with me and JA had his Mother and Grandfather with him. JA also had his L with him and mine was no where to be found.
So I am waiting for my L to appear. No call from her, nothing. We were finally called to appear before the court where I had to say to the judge "Excuse me your Honor. My L isn't here." She asked who my L was and said ok, let's take the next case while we wait to hear from her.
So I step outside the court room and call the new law firm she works in. I told them who I was and that I was waiting for my L. They put me on hold and then come back and say that she is in a different court on another matter and sent another L from the firm to represent me today. I told her we did not see another L and she told me to go back in the court room and someone would point him out.
So my brother goes back in the court room and there is no Mr. L anywhere.
So I called back up the office and told them. They put me on hold and called his cell phone and then they told me he is there but in a different court room and he should be with me momentarily.
So finally he comes.
Meanwhile I also forgot to mention that the Law Guardian representing the chilren came in and sat right down next to JA and his L like they were old buddies!
As I was waiting for this L to show up I see JA, his L and the Law Guardian chatting it up outside.
So when I finally met up with this L I told him about it and I said it was not fair because I have not been interviewed by her.
So the L went up to the Law Guardain and asked her if I could speak with her too.
So I spoke with her, unrepresented (unlike JA) and I got the impression right away that she was siding with JA.
I'll get to that later.
So then we were called back in before the Judge and the L representing me has no knowledge of the case whatsoever.
The judge calls the Law Guardian, my L and JA's L to the bench.
They were talking real quite and I couldn't make out what they were saying but enough to tell me things weren't going to go my way.
JA's L did a lot of talking but obviously since my present L didn't know anything about the case just listened and didn't say a word.
Then they set a new trial for July 2nd.
And yes, the Law Guardian is definetly leaning toward JA's side and the judges' side.
I got screwed. If my L was there she could've defended me the same way JA's L defended him.
So right now I am p*ssed off beyond belief. I am deciding to whether I am going to fire my L but that means I almost have to start back from square one.
No matter what, she will be hearing from me. I think it was totally unprofessional of her to do what she did to me.
No heads up, nothing.
I got screwed in court today because she wasn't there.
So how do you like that for a screwy day in court?
MrsH, I'm am so very sorry to hear this! That was sh*tty all around. You definately need to call your L and ask her what was up with that lack of communication from her and how her replacement was as well. I don't blame you for being fumed at all. You didn't get to hear was the kids law guardian said at all?
I got screwed. If my L was there she could've defended me the same way JA's L defended him.
So right now I am p*ssed off beyond belief. I am deciding to whether I am going to fire my L but that means I almost have to start back from square one.
No matter what, she will be hearing from me. I think it was totally unprofessional of her to do what she did to me.
No heads up, nothing.
I got screwed in court today because she wasn't there.
So how do you like that for a screwy day in court?
OMG! Are you my twin? My L is going to plead his motion to withdraw on Wednesday, then leave. That is what the paralegal told me. I will be left standing there with no one to plead the other motions---a sure fire way for me to get screwed over in court!
What the H*LL is it with these lawyers???? You get someone who is highly recommended, pay an arm and a leg, you think they've got your back, and then they screw you over!
How is this right?
Mrs. H, I am so, so sorry. The only caution I have is, do NOT fire her if you cannot afford the retainer fee for a new attorney. But you need to DEMAND that she start representing you properly. And get her to file a motion for a new Law Guardian to be appointed if AT ALL possible.
Quite frankly, I think you need to file a motion for a change of venue to another court---another judge.
Why are we the ones getting screwed over here? Our H's are the ones behaving horribly, and they are getting rewarded for it? What is wrong with this picture?
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
Dar, I will get to the conversation I had with the Law Guardian later as I am too tired to go through it all now.
Fig, my L requested the Law Guardian in hopes of helping us out but it clearly backfired. She doesn't make or break the case but her opinion does matter heavily on the case.
We still can go to trial but basically it sounds like the Judge has already made up her mind in which direction she is heading. So it seems to be we will lose before we even started type of thing.
I can still appeal the judge's decision if she does not allow me to move but that will take a lot of money.
mrsH I would be quite upset with your L for never even telling you she would not be in court. she should have reset the court date if she couldn't be there...L's do that all the time!!
No decisions have been finalized so you haven't been told you can't move. Start repeating over and over again that you will be moving to NJ because that is what is best for you and the boys. Keep saying it over and over again outloud and karma will work for you...
So now you wait until July...alot can happen between now and then. Tell your L that you can't afford to buy where you are and the only way your children are going to have a life that they are accustomed to is if you move. Have your L repeat that over and over to the judge.
Try to think positively...you were not told today that you could not move, nothing is set in stone, time is still on your side.
