When life just hits you

[tpaschal]

Oh Sweetie, I feel the same way you do right now.

Maybe someone out there can help us a little bit with this.

(((((((hugs))))))

And I am right there with both of you, crying as I read this and Cinders post above. I feel the exact same way.

But what hurts even more is that it's not just about me and him. Even if I screwed up horribly, aren't the kids worth giving me another chance to show him how wonderful it could be? Am I really such a monster that even his kids' happiness can't convince him to give it another shot?

But then......I know. If this was just about me and him and our marriage, he WOULD give us another chance, even if he was just sticking it out for the kids' sakes. That's how I KNOW this is a MLC. The wonderful and loving father my H used to be would never do this to his kids if it wasn't MLC.

And that's what you guys need to KNOW, too. This is NOT about the things we did wrong. We were not perfect, we did things wrong in our marriages, and we need to change and grow for the better, to be sure, but his MLC is all about him.

I think that is the hallmark of MLC---selfishness.

But it still hurts. It hurts like hell. Why am I not enough to get him through this? Why wasn't my love and the kids love enough? And why wasn't he strong enough to find another way through this---DAMN IT! I want to SCREAM at him!!!