Every sitch is different and only we know our spouses. It's great to get and give advice but in the end it's truely our decision to do what we do. You know her and you do what is best for your R.
I think that we should do the opposite of what our Sp expect. If they expect us to stick around then we leave, or if the expect us to be bitter or angry with them then we have to act kind and gentle with them. It breaks the sterotypes they have of us.
I just think you need to give her something to miss. That's a big mistake I made with my H. I didn't give him time to really miss me.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
