i did tell him re addiction theory and he agreed that all symptoms are there and he read a little from the book about affairs and it matches as well, but he said that he can't stop, he has to do what he has to do.
And this is precisely why it's an addiction. Unfortunately, logically telling him that won't get you anywhere. He does have to see it for himself.
It is up to you how much time you give him.
Read the last-resort technique (LRT) and the beyond-the-LRT in DB or DR. Right now, he is coasting, he has time to make his decisions because you are giving it to him. You do have a lot of control over where the stitch goes, but mostly in the D direction. If you want things to work, patience is the first, and hardest, lesson.
(((Firekeeper)))
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
