Thanks Michelle. Most of the people I talk to are supportive, but I don't talk so much because lets face it, they get tired of hearing it after a while. Everyone here is facing similar situations, so it I think it is easier for us to listen to each other. I don't know what I did before I came to this board, but I think you are right, I need to tell my friend that I want her support, and not the negativity.
I ended up calling my H about it on Saturday because when we first split, she talked to him briefly. I had moved out almost immediately, and asked if I could move back in temporarily until I got on my feet. Apparently, she told him that she did not think that was a good idea. I asked him about it, and he said he honestly could not remember, those first few days were a blur for him as well. Since then, he has spoken to her once when she called to congratulate him on his new job, but did not address our M with him. I told him she was giving me a really hard time about it, and although he didn't say anything, I know it made him angry. The thing was I didn't even bring him up. I learned not to really discuss things with her, she seems to think that if my H wants to be with me he will and its an instant gratification. I suppose unless one lives through this sitch, they cannot possibly understand that it takes time to heal the wounds. I see great progression. I don't expect it to happen overnight. I don't know why she does, and frankly, I don't care. My H's only response is it is not my job to try to please my friend, and he is right.
At any rate, I am just babbling, but feel better doing it. Thanks...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
