The door is offically closed

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I just read somewhere here that our hearts might stay swiss-cheese, that we get past it but never really get over it.

Don't deny how you are feeling (it will only prolong the process)--you are the NORMAL one who feels sadness at this!

Very well put. I totally agree that WE are the normal ones, because we grieve and we feel the loss. The WAS's move right into another relationship (so many of them do that part BEFORE the M ends !!!) and that is not NORMAL. That is aviodance, denial, etc. How very sad for them, and for the person they pull into their dysfunction! (Although I have a hard time feeling any pity for a person who gets involved with someone who is married.....they reap what they sow !!!)