The weekend was good. I think I mispoke. I'm actually going to my parents for the long Memorial Day weekend. We stayed around home this past weekend.
I had told H that I wanted to talk about things this weekend. He was around, but didn't make himself very available to talk. I'm not sure why he can't just do this. I don't want to be told from OW's H what is happening in my life. I want the man that I've known for 17 years to tell me. Instead, H wanted "family" time.
On Friday evening H went grocery shopping. He came home, made dinner & then popped a movie in.
On Sat., D4 and I had plans in the morning. We left H at home & went to a friend's house. When we got home, H was not around & had done nothing around the house, as he said he had planned to do. When he came home, he wouldn't tell me where he'd been. I didn't push, but just asked what he'd done. It also appeared as if he'd been out drinking. He had asked me earlier if D4 and I would like to go to dinner on Sat. night. We took D4 out to a nice restaurant on a lake. Afterward, we took her for ice cream. When we got home, H crashed on the couch. Again, no time for a talk. Although I did call H out on something on Sat. morning. We received our government stimulus check. He asked me to write him a check for his 1/2. I reminded him that he'd borrowed money from me while we were in IN last weekend & that he still owed me for my portion of the federal income taxes. He joked that he'd pay me back next paycheck. I told him to go pull it out of the other account he has been stuffing money into. H had a look of shock on his face. I said, Yes, I do know about that account. He told me that just because he gets brochures from bank "XYZ" that it doesn't mean he has an account open there. I said, 1st off, I never said what bank it was and 2nd, I know for a fact you have an account open there. He told me to stop snooping. I told him that I hadn't snooped for a long time but that I knew about the account. He told me to stay out of his email. I said, I don't have access to your email. He said, well you're finding this out somehow. I told him that I do not have access to his email and I didn't have to have access to know the things I do. I reminded him that our daughter is 4 and she talks a lot too. Nothing else came from H's mouth.
On Sunday we just did some things around the house, went shopping for some things for all of us. We took D4 to a park. After that, H made dinner while I did some things around the house. The evening consisted of picking up after D4, her bath, dinner....etc. Again, H did not make himself available for a talk.
I think I'll be pushing H for a talk either tonight or tomorrow night. This isn't going to be an easy conversation for me either, but I just don't want to hear how things are going to play out from someone else.
And yes, H did try for sex again this weekend. His doing that and playing "family guy" really pushes the fact that he's a lost man.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
