CBK, Do not be too hard on yourself. It is what happens going forward that counts. If there is one thing i learned on theses boards in the last few months it is to not judge other LBSs. everybody reacts to situations differently. i am not really sure there is a right and a wrong or if and if I would have done this my WAS would... The important part in all this is to take care of yourself and your kids. Try to grow as a person morally, mentally and if at all possible physically. Stay strong and try to look at all the positives in your life.