I completely understand where your parents are coming from. I'm sure that I will get the "tough love" treatment from my friends once I see them. Who knows about MLC "in real life"? For most people mid-life crisis is something that's made fun of, or some lame excuse for misbehaving men.
You know what your H is going through but you don't have to explain it to your parents. Listen to them and validate their feelings!
I hope all goes well for you this week.
Talk to you when I'm back, (((hugs)))
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I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Just reading up on your thread. I'm sorry to hear of the incredible heartache you've been experiencing. You and H. have shared a lot of history together. I can only imagine that those difficult days are really tough, and the burn of the OW and her antics. It really does sound like classic MLC stuff. Keep posting and coming here for support, it is a good place with helpful advice.
Thank you Purr for reading my thread!!!! That means a lot to me to have people read & help me understand all of this. I'm so scared & lonely right now.
My H & I do share so much history, I just want to call & talk to him like we used to talk so many times. I know I can't do that right now, he was my best friend & now he is sharing everything with OW. I was never so shocked in my life when I got that email from her. What a slut!
I just keep hoping for that phone call from him telling me he is sorry & it's over with OW at least I hope it will be over with her soon! I think he is still in honeymoon mode now. It's been over a month since I've heard from him. We used to not be able to go all day without talking to each other. Thanks for checking in!!!
Stella, thank you for your support also & I can't wait to hear about your weekend!!
N sounds like you are doing well keeping yourself together and accepting where your at I thought my H would have been back already also but if its MLC it is a long and bumpy road hold on to your hope as you make a new life for you as you stand for your M
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Thank you for the support! I'm trying to keep it together. I've had a couple of nights that I couldn't sleep & start thinking about everything, I know I shouldn't.
At 2am this morning I happened to be awake & heard a car wreck, then my motions lights came on in my fenced in back yard, I looked out & saw someone climbing over my privacy fence. He warped my chain gate a little bit. My parents were hear but slept thru the whole thing. I looked out the front & saw where an SUV had flipped in my neighbors ditch, they just abandoned it, I assume it was stolen & they were running. Police came & searched my back yard but of course they were gone. I miss my H for lots of reasons but that was really scary & I wanted him there with me so bad!!! I'm usually by myself so if my parents had not been here I would have felt worse. It's just hard after all these years together!!!
I'm trying to turn all this over to God but it is so hard not to think about it & worry about it, I keep day dreaming that he will come back & how he will come back, I know not good!
Thank goodness you weren't alone in the house when that happened otherwise you would have been more frightened. I'm glad everything is alright (except for the chain gate). You have been through so much in such a short period of time. Have you been able to get out and do things for yourself-GAL? That will be really vital in the healing process. How about IC to help you deal with all that has happened? Keep hanging in there, nlt.
Nlt, thank you so much for your support on my thread.
HUGS!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Yes, it would have been scary had I been by myself. It was bad enough.
I haven't really been able to get out too much. I think that is something I need to do. I'm having a hard day today. I still just think this is all a nightmare & I'm going to wake up soon.
I got some C before the D but haven't since. I guess I really need to do that.
You keep hanging in there too.
I'm happy that things are going good for you. Maybe he is about to come out of the MLC.
I know what you mean when events or situations come up that stress us or scare us--it's natural when you are together with someone that you turn to eachother for comfort, reassurance, support. The event you talked about sounds scary, but also that it hurt and felt very lonely not to have your H. there for you. I know, it is really, really tough.
Thanks Purr!!! Yes, it is really tough!!! I went to the doctor this morning for annual check up. Normally I would go by & pick up him for lunch. I did take a different route back than I normally do but it was still so hard. I know I need to GAL but I'm just having the hardest time letting him go.
I hope he hasn't completely let me go & will call or come around soon.
Just need a little advice. I have to send my H his part of the tax refund, I plan to send it certified b/c I don't trust OW, so I want H to sign for it. Someone suggested that I send him a little note. Maybe just say "hope you are doing well".
With everything I've been thru with him & OW, what does everyone think? Should I just send him the check & not say anything, that might make him wonder. If I send him a note, will that make him think that I still want him back. I do but I don't want him to know that, I think that would make him go the other way.
