Shoe--
I am so sorry to hear the news--it probably is effecting you more because you are dealing with more than one stressor at the same time. No 2x4s...

I just read somewhere here that our hearts might stay swiss-cheese, that we get past it but never really get over it.

Don't deny how you are feeling (it will only prolong the process)--you are the NORMAL one who feels sadness at this! But you know that these feelings are not with you all the time, as they once were.

Try to see the employment and freedom from a R as a kind of new beginning for you...What is it that you have always really wanted to do? Can you squeeze in some travel before you have to get back down to work?